THERAPY 101
©Cort Curtis, Ph.D.
What is, is and what isn’t, isn’t. Happiness is a function of accepting what is.
Acceptance is distinct from tolerating something or putting up with something or
being resigned to something. Full acceptance is embracing reality.
Experiencing is a word referring to your inner state. Another word for experiencing
is feeling. Your experiencing (feeling) is made up of thoughts and body
sensations. Negative feelings arise when the unexpected or unwanted occurs. All
experiencing has a natural tendency to complete itself. Suffering is a function of
maintaining an unfinished experience.
We maintain an unfinished experience by avoiding it. Suffering and unhappiness is
a function of resisting completion of your experiencing. Unhappiness says “What
is, shouldn’t be and what isn’t should.” All unhappiness is a function of resisting
what is. Completion occurs out of observing and allowing your experiencing.
To be aware is to observe your experiencing which only occurs now. When you
avoid your experience, you maintain it. To complete an experience is to observe it
totally and completely.
The only reality is right now. The past is over and the future is not yet. The only
time you can observe and experience something is right now.
To complete your experience is to finish it. To finish something is to be done with
it. To be done with something is to be over it. To be over something is to let it go.
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Who you are is whole and complete. You are a child of God and thus you are like
God and share all of the qualities of God. God is creator and so are you.
The ego is a substitute for your true self. The ego is nothing more than a false
image of who you think you are. You made up your ego.
You are not your feelings. You have feelings but you are not your feelings. Your
feelings are not good or bad or right or wrong. They, simply, are what they are.
You are always doing one of two things with your feelings: 1) You are talking about
them, or 2) You are acting them out. If you don't talk about your feelings, you will
act them out one way or another.
Your partner's feelings are not personal, no matter how much you or your partner
believe that they are. The number one problem in all relationships is how you
handle feelings. If you are to grow and if your relationship is to grow, you must
handle your feelings. There is no way around it.
Everything is over. Everything that has happened, has happened. It is ALL in the
past. The ego does not want to hear that. EVERYTHING is over in fact. The joy of
knowing that everything is over is that it is also just beginning. Your life is ALWAYS
just beginning.
The purpose of life is to create and complete your experience and thus pave the
way for creating again. Creating is your function. You are most happy when you
are creating. But creating is impaired when you are saddled with unfinished
experiences. The process of life is creating, completing and creating again each
moment of our existence.
The language of awareness is naming and describing. The language of creating is
declaring.
All words refer to something. Example: The word “pencil” is not the pencil itself.
The pencil is the pencil. We often confuse the word with the thing itself. The thing
itself is nonverbal. The word "resentment" is not the resentment itself. The
resentment is the resentment. “God” is a word that refers to something. “God” is a
word that refers to nothing more than all that is which includes the word “God”. In
other words, God is all there is.
Growth is a process of fulfilling your potential. Your full potential is unconditional
love. Forgiveness is a step along the way toward unconditional love. Love is
having something be exactly the way it is. Forgiveness is a return to love.
Forgiveness is nothing more than a process of letting go or of completing an
experience.
Therapy is a healing space for you to complete your unfinished experiences and
create your life anew.
©Cort Curtis, Ph.D.
What is, is and what isn’t, isn’t. Happiness is a function of accepting what is.
Acceptance is distinct from tolerating something or putting up with something or
being resigned to something. Full acceptance is embracing reality.
Experiencing is a word referring to your inner state. Another word for experiencing
is feeling. Your experiencing (feeling) is made up of thoughts and body
sensations. Negative feelings arise when the unexpected or unwanted occurs. All
experiencing has a natural tendency to complete itself. Suffering is a function of
maintaining an unfinished experience.
We maintain an unfinished experience by avoiding it. Suffering and unhappiness is
a function of resisting completion of your experiencing. Unhappiness says “What
is, shouldn’t be and what isn’t should.” All unhappiness is a function of resisting
what is. Completion occurs out of observing and allowing your experiencing.
To be aware is to observe your experiencing which only occurs now. When you
avoid your experience, you maintain it. To complete an experience is to observe it
totally and completely.
The only reality is right now. The past is over and the future is not yet. The only
time you can observe and experience something is right now.
To complete your experience is to finish it. To finish something is to be done with
it. To be done with something is to be over it. To be over something is to let it go.
'
Who you are is whole and complete. You are a child of God and thus you are like
God and share all of the qualities of God. God is creator and so are you.
The ego is a substitute for your true self. The ego is nothing more than a false
image of who you think you are. You made up your ego.
You are not your feelings. You have feelings but you are not your feelings. Your
feelings are not good or bad or right or wrong. They, simply, are what they are.
You are always doing one of two things with your feelings: 1) You are talking about
them, or 2) You are acting them out. If you don't talk about your feelings, you will
act them out one way or another.
Your partner's feelings are not personal, no matter how much you or your partner
believe that they are. The number one problem in all relationships is how you
handle feelings. If you are to grow and if your relationship is to grow, you must
handle your feelings. There is no way around it.
Everything is over. Everything that has happened, has happened. It is ALL in the
past. The ego does not want to hear that. EVERYTHING is over in fact. The joy of
knowing that everything is over is that it is also just beginning. Your life is ALWAYS
just beginning.
The purpose of life is to create and complete your experience and thus pave the
way for creating again. Creating is your function. You are most happy when you
are creating. But creating is impaired when you are saddled with unfinished
experiences. The process of life is creating, completing and creating again each
moment of our existence.
The language of awareness is naming and describing. The language of creating is
declaring.
All words refer to something. Example: The word “pencil” is not the pencil itself.
The pencil is the pencil. We often confuse the word with the thing itself. The thing
itself is nonverbal. The word "resentment" is not the resentment itself. The
resentment is the resentment. “God” is a word that refers to something. “God” is a
word that refers to nothing more than all that is which includes the word “God”. In
other words, God is all there is.
Growth is a process of fulfilling your potential. Your full potential is unconditional
love. Forgiveness is a step along the way toward unconditional love. Love is
having something be exactly the way it is. Forgiveness is a return to love.
Forgiveness is nothing more than a process of letting go or of completing an
experience.
Therapy is a healing space for you to complete your unfinished experiences and
create your life anew.
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